Any one seen the movie yet?
Read the book?
Well, I haven't read the book, but saw the movie. It is a veeeeerrry long movie. Slow moving but has pertinent advice for women on the dating scene. If he doesn't call, hes just not that into you.
The movie starts off with a scene of a little girl, building a sand castle, quite happy and content until the little boy that she likes wanders over to her and starts calling her poo names. Literally. Then knocks her over. Cue next scene, little girl is telling her mother and the mother says to her, 'You know why he said those things? Its because he likes you!'
Now, how many times have we heard that said to us?
How many times have you said it to one of your girlfriends, little ones in school?
He's nasty because secretly, he likes you?
I know I have, on both accounts! Is it any wonder that we put up with a whole whack of s*** from the opposite sex? This has been ingrained in us, from a young age and we believe it.
Out of the whole movie, this was the most profound idea.
Honestly, how many of us, have sat by that telephone, willing it to ring, calling answer phone just to check in case we missed it when we dashed off to the loo(forgetting to take along the cell phone) or when a friend rang and spoke for longer than a minute?? Checking for text messages and is the phone still working properly. Getting a friend to ring you, just to check?
Ok, so maybe not as bad as all that, but Im sure each and everyone of us, has had some sort of similar experience. and the truth of the matter is , if the person in question wanted to see or speak to us, they would ring. Even in this day and age of technological connectivity, where one may have more than one telephone number to be reached on. They would find a way!
But what really gets me, is that if something as simple as this concept can keep one in 'bad relationships'/waiting for the phone to ring, what else is being taught to us, at a young age, that becomes a belief? Shouldn't we be empowering each other, telling the truth, being honest, allowing one to believe in themselves, truly. As they are?
Maybe that is why some friendships are based upon 'position' and 'power' because those beliefs were passed on to them. Not seeing the real person behind all the nonsense we accumulate during our lifetimes? I do wonder. (This thought after reading Lynette's post re friendships).(p.s Lynette, hope you don't mind me linking here.)
But, I am now digressing from the movie.
Watch the movie, if you fancy, I found it a little tooo long, but the sentiment is there.
As The Man said, it was an epic rom com!
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Don't mind the link:)
Great post...who we are start being ingrained into us from very little. Ever seen a mother or fathers reaction when their little boy plays with a doll?
Taking the whole "friendship-thing" a little further. I always had this impression that true friendship is trough thick and thin. When a friend in crises phones...I would drop all I do and rush off to be there for her. Shucks...try phoning a friend when you are in crisis, and suddenly you realise that most friendships are very one sided.
Well I have given up on doing all the hard work to keep friendships alive...so guess what happened? I don't see or hear from most of them anymore and now realise just how draining those friendships were. There is at most three people I can confide in. (one being my husband)
Makes you think, doesn't it?
It does indeed make one think. I have to be honest, I only have a few people who I confide in and who I feel comfortable sharing my woes with. Often believe that I have to be strong, and if Im not, then rather go into hibernation, even though those friends who are there, they are still there during and after self imposed hibernation.
I think also, that rather find out who your true friends are now, than waste time on the draining, one sided ones that really, once served a purpose and no longer do.
Some friendships do have an expiry date.
life, wierd hey!
last thing, some friendships, ( I am very lucky in mine) really do stand the tests of time. I am very blessed in that regard. we may not see each other regularly or speak often, but when we do, its just picked up where we left off.
I have not seen the movie, but have read the book (a couple of times). It is well worth the read and then pass it to ALL your unmarried girl friends. My sister even put it under her pillow at one stage to remind herself that the guy of the moment "just wasn't that into her". Whenever we see a friend stressing over a guy that we can all clearly see is not that into her we try and get her to read the book, with out insulting her (fine line).
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