Monday, January 31, 2011

Don’t marry because you are miserable

I thought this was a bit strange, why on earth would you get married because you are miserable? Don't you get married because you are happy?

I guess some of us do marry because we don't want to be lonely, but that is also def not a reason to get married. I think if you get married, it should be for as much as life as possible. To marry someone that compliments you and together you balance and work well. I think it is quite a lonely thing to be married to someone that you don't share that with, who is not your best friend.

I am not married. The Man and I have been together coming on 5 years and still I don't think we should get married. He did propose, when I first found out I was pregnant. But for me , that wasn't a reason for marriage. Not just because I was pregnant. So, I gave it time and said lets see how we go first, if we want to be in a relationship because of us, and not just because of Bean. I am still not sure hence no wedding.

And you? Did you marry for love? Did you find your best friend first time around? or did you marry a frog before finding your friend? And if you aren't married, would you marry because you were miserable?

4 comments:

cat said...

Oh this is so true - marry because you are so happy to be with him - and for no other reason.
I was lucky first time around, although I was engaged before that. But I only met Mr Right 3 weeks before I turned 30!

Shayne said...

I married for love. Even though I never expected to find it when i did. And we have our ups and downs, but I know that no matter what he will be there for me, and vice versa. I think that is what you need to 100% certain of before marrying anyone. xxx

Lynette Jacobs said...

I married for love at the tender age of 18. Now 32 years later I love him more and more. He is my best friend, the one who holds my hand and cares for me when I feel sick, the one who holds me tight when my world turns upside down. We often say "It's just me and you babe." :-)

Ordinarylife said...

I thought I married for love, now I am not so sure...

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